My Card Is Full: The Evolution of the Farewell Ball Dance Cards
By
Hayes Smith
February 2012
My Card Is Full: The Evolution of the Farewell Ball Dance Cards
A Research Paper Submitted for English 241
¶ 1 Leave a comment on paragraph 1 0 In a world of etiquette and formality, dance cards quickly became indispensable to young women in search of dancing partners. They were a manifestation of etiquette, used to keep social order and help their users follow protocol. Though dance cards are rarely used now, the study of these cards gives a lot of insight into the societies and groups that used them.
¶ 2 Leave a comment on paragraph 2 0 Lists of etiquette books remain from all different periods, instructing men and women how to act in each particular circumstance. Dancing claims a large portion of many of these books, as it was considered an elegant pastime and a way to judge one’s character. Dancing was a sign of culture and social class, as the upper class had formal dance training while they were young.
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¶ 4 Leave a comment on paragraph 4 0 The dance card furthered one’s enjoyment of dancing, as it allowed young women to know who they would dance with; they never needed to worry about procuring a partner for the following dance, because he had already signed her card. A practice known as “dating ahead” became quite common as young women began filling out their dance cards in advance of the evening, to ensure that they would not be without a partner. Many women worried about not being asked to dance, as the most beautiful, best dancers were constantly engaged on the dance floor; the women without partners were often looked down on and pitied. Young women feared not having a partner for every dance, and having a dance card allowed them to make sure they would be busy dancing the entire night.
¶ 5 Leave a comment on paragraph 5 0 Dance cards also provided women with a way to gracefully decline a dance invitation. Johnson points out, “a lady must not decline the invitation of a gentleman to dance, unless she is previously engaged, or does not intend to dance any more during the evening” (79). Having a dance card allowed women to fill out their card with men who they would prefer to dance with, and it also allowed them to gracefully decline a dance by saying her card is full, even though this may not be true.